Quick link: Parents, Call Out the Beauty
Writing at A Life Overseas about how to help our kids see beauty, even in hard things.
I don’t think parents should ignore hard and ugly things where we live, but I know that what we emphasize, kids will emphasize. While we need to give our kids language for dealing with poverty and injustice and loneliness, we also need to model choosing gratitude. This might mean literally lifting up our eyes to see beyond garbage dumps to the mountains beyond.
Giving our kids a love for the unique beauty or kindness or hope in their place is a gift we give them.
I don’t know if there are studies about this or if it is purely anecdotal, but I have heard over and over that how kids respond to a life overseas is directly related to how parents, especially moms, respond to it.
No pressure, moms.
Seriously, no pressure. All is Grace.
But also, seriously, how ya doin’?
Some days are so full of purpose, language success, and cultural deepening that our joy overflows and we dance around the kitchen with our kids.
Some days are so lonely, breaking, hot, dusty, disappointing, and frustrating that if we had our first choice, we would be on the way to the airport right.now.
I absolutely think it is valuable to be honest and vulnerable about our struggles, but what we choose to emphasis around our children matters.
Especially when kids are little. As they grow and become teenagers, are able to see more nuance and are facing their own struggles, we can become more transparent about ours. But when kids are young, if we want them to thrive and enjoy living in our new location, we need to help them.
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